Day 118 – Scared to commit

Every age group gets a specific name. A generation X has this and this characteristic. A millennial will do this and never say that. Even though I don’t really like generalisations, there are so characteristics I really recognize in myself. Of course you can judge any type of study (typically millennial behaviour again), but there I do see a point in trying to understand the minds and hearts of a new generation.

Fun fact in between: according to the most accredited source for random information a.k.a. Wikipedia, about 40 % of this generation doesn’t identify with the characteristics of the generation. One of them being that you are not likely to commit to set in stone structures or tight work schedule. Peter Pan syndrome, which refers to pushing back adulthood, is one of the famous labels used for this generation.

I think we have never lived in a world in which the difference between growing up in the time of your grandparents is so vastly different from your upbringing. I am that last group of people that remembers life without a computer. Children nowadays cannot, and then I really mean cannot, understand what that is like. As I cannot imagine what it is like to grow up with the idea that secondary education is not an option. Of course, there are differences between countries. The situation in which I grew up is again vastly different from the situation say in mainland China. Because of all those differences I have this need to categorize in order to make sense of it all.

One of the characteristics of my generation is that we are scared to commit. Again the Peter Pan syndrome to some extend. Yet it’s not that I don’t want to be an adult or live an life with the responsibilities of adulthood. It’s more about being scared to commit to one place, one set out path, one job, one city. I still want to be free to make different choices, move to different countries, build new relationships. I don’t know why that is or why I think those can’t go together.

This weekend I am going to look up more about this commitment thing. Find out why it is so hard for millennials to just do what their parents did. Find a job, buy a house, get married and have babies. This weekend I am going to dig a little deeper into my questions. And maybe read ‘Le Petit Prince’ again. Just to remind myself that there is nothing wrong with holding on to the child in you.

“Grown-ups never understand anything by themselves, and it is tiresome for children to be always and forever explaining things to them”

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince

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