There are a few people in the world, that allow me to complain. Without judgement, just simply getting rid of things that bother me. In general though I am trying to be more aware about complaining. I heard a radio item earlier today in the car about a woman that studied the behaviour of complaining. Based on what she found out, she decided to make a conscious effort to complain less and she really felt it had positive effects on her life.
The thing about complaining is that it feels good. But not everything that feels good, will eventually be good for you. Turns out that complaining is a type of negative behaviour that gets hard-wired in your brain. Like addiction. If you repeat a certain behaviour, your brain will create a shorter path of communication to form closer connections between neurons. The more you repeat a behaviour, the stronger those connections get. You can’t blame your brain for wanting to build bridges to cross rivers. You don’t want to keep building brides on the same spot over and over again, right? And guess what, we also have such a thing as mirror neurons. We tend to copy behaviour from others around us. So if I complain a lot, someone else around me might start complaining too. Negativity creates more negativity.
So yeah. Enough reason to commit to not complaining anymore. At least try and be conscious how it effects how we feel and how others feel. I am not saying we shouldn’t express feelings that might be negative. Just be careful with your attitude and your tone. Concern or worry isn’t the same as complaining.
One of my favourite parts of the Bible is Matthew 6. It talks about flowers and birds and how they are clothed with the most beautiful colours without having to do anything. They don’t complain when it rains or when it is cold. They reach out the sun or sing at dawn. Sunrise, singing and adoration for nature. Nothing to complain about.
Do Not Worry
25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[a]?
28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.